As of five days ago, I officially became a legal adult. While it feels amazing to walk into a restaurant and order one of every cocktail on the menu (I don’t suggest doing this…. alcohol is expensive and bars tend to not included the prices of their drinks on the menu), I can’t say with confidence (or say at all) that I feel like an adult. I still call my Dad to ask about all my car problems and to have him make my dentist appointments for me, and I still call my mom to ask how to cook pasta or to ask which brand of paper towels is best to buy. I also must not look physically like an adult either, a few weekends ago I was at the grocery store (a rare occasion) and the woman checking me out asked me what year of school I was in, in which I replied my senior year and she responded by enthusiastically asking which High School I went to and weather because I may know her son who’ll be a junior. She was taken aback when I informed her that I was actually going to be a senior in COLLEGE and the rest of the transaction became slightly awkward after that. I have not only experienced this questioning of my adulthood at the grocery store but also at every place I’ve bought a drink at in the past five days; don’t worry mom and dad it’s only been 3 (they’ve been really concerned that I’ve become a raging alcoholic since turning 20-fun), but each time I order my delightful 8 parts sugar .2 parts liquor cocktail the waiter/waitress hard core questions my ID.
Actual Waitress Remark: “WOAH! I had to do a triple check on you!”
Actual Waitress Remark: “Oh, you ARE 21!”
My mom always tell me to feel honored that people think I’m younger than I am…. however I can’t help but take it a little personal when a 16 year old movie theatre worker IDs me when I go to an R rated movie (yes, that happened in December). Even though I get offended that people don’t recognize my adult status, there is a part of me that wishes I could pause time and not grow older. There are so many things that come along with being an adult, many responsibilities and requirements that I’m not quite ready for. I’ve been told that your early 20s are your prime, although I believe you can make any age your “prime” It’s all about how you decide to live your life but that’s just my personal opinion, but I can’t help but agree because this is the last year of my life that I will be without a “big girl” job- so I definitely need to have my fill while I still have the time.
In all seriousness, I am NOT a drinker and I am not a party animal by any means, I celebrated my 21st birthday with Mexican food (and one smallish margarita) and then a scary movie (my friends are troopers for going to see that with me!). I also recorded a video of me dancing to a Shania Twain song just to prove to the world how much of an adult I had become 😉! The biggest realization I had on this particular birthday was that the older you get the less important birthdays become, not that they aren’t important…I mean EVERYONE deserves to be celebrated on their day of birth, but they become less of a show, fewer people wish you a happy birthday, you start getting sensible gifts instead of elaborate ones, and most importantly it’s just a normal day when your adult—no special school party or a day off from the world. It’s a hard pill to swallow, but at the same time my naturally pessimistic self has readily accepted that fact. In the end, I’ve grown a year older but I still have many years to come before I grow wiser (wisdom is different than general intellectual btw…I (and my mom) like to claim that I am quite a smart cookie 😊).
Catch you on the flipside!
On a very serious side note: As some of you may know, I’m a born and raised Texan. The state has been my home for my 21 years of life and many areas have been completed devastated by Hurricane Harvey. I have been blessed that my family and I have remained safe, however many other people and families were not as fortunate. Seeing photos and hearing stories from those effected has weighed heavily on my heart and If anything, please keep Texas in your thoughts and if you are religious your prayers. I’ve linked a site that details ways you can help, it’s definitely worth a look if you are interested in donating.